When parents get old – what now?

When parents grow old, adult children often find themselves in a situation where they have to deal with many difficult decisions and questions. Many shy away from discussing these questions with their parents and ultimately making the right decisions. Often, children fear that their own parents do not want to acknowledge aging themselves.

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How do you best start the conversation when parents get old?

With patience and sensitivity. As resilience, strength, and concentration slowly but surely decrease, it can be difficult to accept this. Nevertheless, one should adapt to the new life situation. For many parents, it may be unfamiliar and difficult to accept help from their children.

Suggestions for aids, such as stair climbing aids, walkers, hearing aids, or modifications for accessibility, can initially be decisively rejected. Even if they would greatly improve quality of life. Here, a lot of patience and sensitivity is required to continue to engage in dialogue with the parents.

Put yourself in the parents’ shoes and consider how you would like to be confronted with the issue. Even if you have been aware for some time that your parents are getting old and need help, it does not mean that your parents are aware of this. Give your parents enough time and space to come to terms with and get used to the idea. This also does not happen overnight.

For children, this new situation often also means a significant adjustment. The roles are suddenly reversed, and it is important to approach the parents with understanding and care – especially when the parents have difficulties dealing with the issue.

Therefore, it is important to address the issue early on, preferably before the need for action arises. This way, the issue can be discussed in an objective manner.

What questions should one address?

  • When is the right time to address the topic of care?
  • With which questions should one begin?What to
  • do when accusations are made?

When is the right time to address the topic of care?

Basically, the earlier the better. The prerequisite for this is that one is prepared when starting the dialogue. Questions such as “How do you imagine it if one day you can no longer take care of yourself?”

Beforehand, one must consider to what extent they can contribute to caregiving. Therefore, thoroughly inform yourself about all the possibilities available and how they can be implemented.

With which questions should one begin?

The most important questions concern powers of attorney and living wills. The topic of living wills serves as a perfect introduction to the topic, for example, when one is currently filling out a living will.


After that come the powers of attorney: Who should take care of what? These more neutral topics provide a good foundation and introduction for more difficult topics such as the topic of care in old age.

What if accusations are made?

The most important thing is that you put yourself in the parents’ shoes and consider how you would prefer to be confronted with the topic. Remember that even though you have been dealing with the topic for some time, it may come as a surprise to your parents that you are bringing up the subject.

As a first reaction, it is therefore not surprising if your parents initially react somewhat negatively to the topic. Therefore, a lot of patience and sensitivity is required from your side to continue to maintain an open dialogue with your parents.

Speak to your parents on an equal footing, neither submissive nor condescending. To prevent misunderstandings, it is better to ask your parents more questions rather than just making statements and presenting them with a fait accompli. It is important to involve parents in decision-making.

Topic aids

To avoid falls in old age, it is advisable to get an overview of the available aids.

Crutches

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Krücken

Crutches are particularly beneficial when one only needs a little support while walking. Many people, for example, use crutches after hip fractures or other bone fractures from a fall.

There are many different types of crutches. It is important that you find crutches that are comfortable for you and that can support you for a long time. It is advisable to choose crutches that are height-adjustable, cushioned, and padded.

Rollators

TOPRO Hestia Rollator
TOPRO Troja 5G

Rollators serve as support for both long and short distances. For a short rest, you can sit on the rollator or use it to transport your shopping items home.

The rollator can be used both outdoors and indoors at home and is an excellent way to stay active despite mobility limitations. You can activate the brake at any time to support yourself without fear of the rollator rolling away.

Stair climbing aid TOPRO Step

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TOPRO Step
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TOPRO Step

If you have stairs in your house, you can use the TOPRO Step stair climbing aid. TOPRO Step is a tool for stairs with a handle that moves along the rail system.

TOPRO Step offers support and safety when climbing stairs, allowing you to climb the stairs at your own pace. This is a great way to make your own home barrier-free, so you don’t have to limit yourself to one floor or install a stairlift. Choosing safe solutions that also contribute to activity and movement in your own home has great health benefits.

Did you know, for example, that physical activity protects against dementia?

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